Self-improvement

Don’t be an idiot.

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Does this sound familiar to you?

You’re unhappy where you are and decide to make a big change. So you make a list of everything you have to do the next day in order to have a ‘perfect’ day. But then, when that next day comes…

You don’t do any of it.

Or worse,

You actually DO what you planned to do, and you’re very proud of yourself. You even stay consistent for a few days, life is great. Until you have a random bad day.

Then the self sabotage starts.

You think to yourself:

“Oh, I f*cked up my streak anyway, might as well f*ck it up even more. There’s no point doing this anyway. Why do I even make my own life so hard?”

I used to be like this too.

But honestly, it’s just stupid.

I mean, you wouldn’t tell a fat guy who’s trying to lose weight: “Hey man, make sure to stick to your diet every day, if you skip one day you’ll be fat again!” Even though he already lost 5 kgs’s in 4 weeks. You’d be a real asshole if you said that, right?

It doesn’t make any sense.

So, here’s what you do instead:

When you f*ck up (as is very likely to happen anyway-so it will serve you better to just expect to f*ck up at some point, so you’re not surprised when it happens.) Just say to yourself: “Oh, it’s fine, one bad day won’t kill me, let’s just keep going tomorrow. And then proceed to have the perfect day the next day.

Wouldn’t that be a way smarter approach?

Try that next time you f*ck things up.

Instead of being a moron and ruining all your progress because of one bad day. Or worse, quitting all together. You’ll never achieve anything with that mindset.

Don’t be an idiot.

Victor Vandermoere

10 habits that will improve your mental health

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When I was 19 years old I was depressed.

I had no money, no discipline, no motivation to do any work or study, no attraction of girls, I was skinny, physically and mentally weak, my grades sucked…

All I did was watch p*rn, Netflix, play video games, and masturbate all day.

My diet was sh*t. My sleep was f*cked.

Feeling miserable was my baseline.

Until one night, lying in my bed, tears rolling down my cheeks… I decided to make a change. A big one.

14 days later, I felt happier than I ever felt before.

What changed?

I started doing these 10 habits every day:

  1. Daily exercise
  2. 10 min. Meditation
  3. Journalling
  4. Walking/going outside & getting sunlight
  5. Social Interactions with strangers (or friends)
  6. Sleep 8 hours, sleep early & wake up early
  7. Started eating less junk.
  8. Did a Dopamine detox: stopped watching the news, quit social media & video games & stopped watching p*rn.
  9. Started reading
  10. Set myself some new ambitious goals.

I did these every day for 14 days straight. My life has never been the same ever since.

So, If you too are struggling right now… I encourage you to do these things for 14 days and see how much your life will change.

It’s worth it, I promise.

Victor Vandermoere

How I got rid of self-doubt and overthinking.

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I used to be very insecure about how skinny I was.

So I started lifting weights, going to the gym religiously and eating everything I could find (‘it’s bulking season’ I kept repeating) just to try and put on some size.

I’ve made plenty of mistakes -still do.

But through trial and error, and some consistency, I got there. In about 2 and a half years I put on more than 10 kg’s, mostly lean muscle mass. I look better than I ever was before, and I’m more confident than ever.

I’ve achieved a level of fitness I never dreamt possible.

But I’ve had my fair share of doubts and fears along the way, of course.

Everybody does.

I thought big, sexy muscles were a thing for pro athletes, bodybuilders, models, lucky guys with great genetics. Not for ‘normal dudes’ like me.

Maybe you think the same thing. Maybe you don’t.

Either way, here’s how I personally beat those fears and anxieties, got rid of my self-doubts, stopped overthinking and achieved my goals in just a few years:

Focusing on the work NOT the outcome/result.

Eat right, sleep right, go gym, drink enough water, take creatine, drink protein shake – the things you have complete control over instead of the things you cannot change like what you see in the mirror or what your scale says.

Focus on the things you can control and STOP worrying about the things you can’t.

And then? Patience.

Focus on the work and the results will come in time.

Suddenly you’ll wake up one day, look in the mirror, and realize you’ve got that sixpack you always dreamt off.

That day is coming, if you’re willing to wait and do the work.

So that’s it. That’s the only cure to overthinking and self doubt I have ever been able to find. I know it’s nothing special, I know it’s boring and slow. But so is it in life.

Slow and boring gets results.

I don’t know who needed to hear this, but I hope it helped.

Victor Vandermoere

21 year old thinks about the meaning of life

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You also have this thing where…

When driving, your mind starts wandering off and you start thinking about all these deep, philosophical topics about life?

Well, I do.

Yesterday I was driving home from work when it happened again.

I don’t remember why, or what triggered me to think about it, but I started thinking about the ‘meaning of life’.

Now,

Why is a 21 year old thinking about the meaning of life instead of going out with his friends on a Friday night?

Because I’m not a normal 21 year old.

I mean, heck.

I’m balancing a full time job with an online business, eating healthy, training 3-4 times a week, while looking for an apartment.

Anyway,

So I was thinking about the meaning of life.

And my conclusion was the same conclusion I always come to when I think about that topic. (Yes, I think about it quite often.)

For me, the meaning of life is:

Improvement

You could call it ‘Kaizen’ or ‘Continues self-improvement’ or ‘1% better everyday’, whatever.

What you call it doesn’t matter.

But for me, my best days. My days where I go to bed feeling good about myself…

Those are the days where I’ve done something that made me better.

Could be developing a skill, learning something new, doing something out of my comfort zone… Or just sticking to my diet and workout schedule.

Especially that last one.

I just know that when I stick to my plan. Good things happen.

More,

It has a ‘ripple’ effect on everything else I do in my life. It’s the habits that get the ball rolling and build momentum for everything else (good) in my life.

And the opposite is true as well.

If I don’t get in my workout, or don’t sick to my diet. Or I don’t sleep well… It has a negative effect on everything else.

And that’s why for me, the whole point of living is to keep improving.

Because, if not… life’s just sad.

So, if you haven’t yet, this is your sign to get your workout in and go bake some eggs.

And if you have any questions related to that, ask away.

Victor Vandermoere